When you are worrying, your nerves!

Posted on June 15, 2012 by admin

Worry causes Anger

If you are constantly worrying then you are harming your body and mind, and eventually your emotions will explode into anger. Worrying often leads nowhere, since most times, the things that people worry about are out of their control. For example, if you have bill due tomorrow and do not get a paycheck until Friday and no one has the money to lend you then you have to wait until Friday to pay the bill. Why worry about it until Friday arrives, since there may be nothing you can do.

Of course you should check your resources to find out if something is available to you, but if it isn’t do not stress your self, rather patiently wait until payday arrives. If you are constantly worrying then eventually your emotions will crumble and an anger outburst may occur. Worry is a distress to our mental status, or aggravation that results from concern over something impending or anticipated therefore worry is anxiety.

When you are worrying, your nerves are affected and when the nerves flare, your temper is subject to flare. The British Dialect for worry is to strangle or to choke. Therefore, we see that worry is not healthy, since strangling and choking can kill. In short, if you are constantly worry or anticipating then you are causing your body harm. Your heart, nerves, and other portions of the body are affected as you worry.

The body signs are there when you are worrying. You often feel the pit of your stomach in knots. You might feel your arms and legs shake, or your heart stressed to its limit. If you cannot change it do not worry about it, it is out of your control anyway. Sufficient for each day for no one knows what tomorrow will bring.

Taking it one day at a time is the best strategy for dealing with stress. If you remember that you can change something’s, but other things are out of your control you will fare better in life. Anger is an intense emotion that can make or break a person.

If you are angry and blow a fuse, more than likely added trouble will come your way and then you will worry constantly trying to figure out a way to escape.  You already have enough problems in your life, so why increase your flow. Emotions are nothing to toy with, since emotions control our joy, anger, happy, sadness and so forth. Emotions are designed to help us manage our lives.

However, if you are not in touch with your emotions then you emotions will not be in touch with you. Usually what follows with worry is depression, which is a state of sadness. Now if you have anxiety combined with depression your nerves are affected tremendously. This means that you are weighing heavy on your emotions and when triggered you are most likely going to explode.

If you are screaming, shouting, yelling, or cursing at the other person then this will add to your existing problems and will affect your nerves more so. It makes sense to let go and think carefully about your situation, finding a way to control your emotions and anger. If you think before acting, it often opens new doors and you will find a resolve for your problems. Remember no one can predict what tomorrow will bring.

Therefore, the control is out of your hands and the only resource then is to relax and think of the potential resolves available to you. Your mind is a tricky area and if you let your mind take control of you then you are heading for a disaster. Being in charge of your own life is taking the road to success and minimizing your problems.

If you feel that you are centered out from the rest of the world, remember someone else has more problems than you have and few of us have very little resources to resolve the problems. No one is excluded from problems in life and we all have our share of turmoil to face each day. If you seem to explode every time your anger arises then you might need to seek help at anger management, mental health or medical experts.

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Enjoy a day on the beach or a night on the town.

Posted on June 15, 2012 by admin

Why am I Angry?

We all asked this question at some point in our lifetime. The best way to answer is to ask the person to reach deep in their own mind and search for the answers. Having full control of your life is virtually impossible, since we all have bosses. This causes anger for some of us, since we may have endured a life with a controlling person, or parent.

We all have rules to follow and this often discourages people when they see certain rules are ridiculous. We may live with our family and at times, someone gets on our nerves. We may work and feel that the job is just not happening, and wish we had a better position in life. We may go to school and someone is bullying us, or else intimidating us emotionally.

There are many reasons a person is angry and all the listed at justifiable for anger to occur. What matters is how we learn to cope with our anger. Either we can take the path to destruction or we can wonder off down the road to success.

Either way you are going to feel anger, since the road to success has many bumpy areas. However, the road to destruction has rocky roads ahead that will not only anger you, but others that you affected by your anger. Since anxiety and depression according to scientist, play a large role in anger we can look at a few ideas to see if any may work for you.

If you have severe anxiety attacks you may want to consult a therapist and ask for Buspirione, which has minimal side affects for treating anxiety. If you suffer depression, you may want to ask your therapist about the variety of serotonin-specific reuptake inhibitors that are risk free. Natural herbs, including Kava Kava are great for relieving anxiety, stress and depression also. If you are not into pills, you may want to exercise and go on a healthy diet to build your body’s cells, tissues, insulin, and so on.

Once your healthy you will notice a difference in your attitude, which is a primarily function of the anger. If you have a hard time exercising, try to start out slow and work your way up to a good schedule. You may also want to write down your feelings, emotions, and thoughts and sort through the details each time you finish. If you have children and they are getting on your nerves, you might want to take a break. Ask a trustworthy family member of friend if they could take the children for a day or two.

If you get a break, try relaxing your mind by using Yoga techniques. Or else spend your time doing something that you enjoy doing. Walking is also great for relieving tension and stress. Tension and stress affects the emotions, which increases your chances of exploding out of anger. If you feel stressed go visit your best friend and talk about nothing.

Enjoy a day on the beach or a night on the town. Maybe you worked hard all week and the stress is now catching up to you. Go to the store and buy yourself something affordable and nice, rewarding yourself for a hard week of work.

Each time you do something good, be sure to reward your self since this promotes positive thinking. If you screw up then do not bang you head, rather tell your self you are human you and will make mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and move ahead. If you are in a relationship and your mate is a jerk do not be afraid to confront him or her.

Let them know that their behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate these continuing habits. There is nothing wrong with defending your honor and there is nothing wrong with addressing your problems, providing you do it without exploding out of anger. If you are having, financial difficulties you might want to run to the library and take out a book on credit repair.

You will find many solutions that can bring relief to your life. Controlling your anger means controlling your life also.

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When anger kills, it is often when anger is ignored over a long course of time.

Posted on June 15, 2012 by admin
When anger kills, it is often when anger is ignored over a long course of time. This means

When Anger Kills

When anger kills, it is often when anger is ignored over a long course of time. When a person is angry and has the inability to address his or her anger without erupting then we know we have a problem that needs immediate attention. If a person is dealing with anger issues, he or she will often use alcohol or drugs to relieve the symptoms.

This is not true in all cases, but alcohol and drugs only ignite the fire already burning out of control. Anger is rooted from hate, and often the person with problems has difficulty restraining his or her impulses, emotions or desires. The person often acts out on impulse striking at the source that made him or her angry.

Not everyone kills when anger is an issue, however in some cases, it has happen and it will happen again. Some strategies for addressing anger are self-talk. When you feel that you are losing control you might want to ask yourself what is going on inside your mind?

You may want to ask yourself if the anger is caused by now, or is it anger that was built inside for years. After you learn self-talk strategies, you will begin analyzing. This means that if you talk yourself through the anger you may see the problem in front of you and find a way to deal with the problem.

Anger is often a direct result of incident. Rather the person that deals with anger may have been neglected, abused, bullied, and so on. The person most likely did not address the issues upfront, rather allowed the negative to build to a point of explosion. Often when we feel angry, we feel as though the world has let us down. Try to remember the world does not revolve around you and the misery that triggers your symptoms is often a result of a decision.

For example if you choose a Internet provider and this source continued making problems, such as redirecting you when you are trying to get a connection several times, this can make anyone mad. However, the company is not focusing on you; rather there is a breakdown in communication at the companies end. A quality service would provide ample service in a reasonable time.

They will be informed of what goes on in their company and direct a person to the right links. Sure, you are mad, but remember you are not the problem and no one is out to make your life miserable. This example should allow you to see that bad things befall us all, and how we deal with it is the key to success. I cannot tell you the number of times I wanted to blow up like dynamite, yet I had to restrain my impulses to prevent problem. That is right!

If you allow your anger to control you then you are only adding more problems to your life. Nothing in life is worth running your nerves and possibly landing in jail simply because you lost control. Violence is never an answer to repairing a problem.

Sometimes we have to be assertive in life, but aggression is not happening since it only makes matters worse. Anger is a strong feeling that centers on antagonism…or anger, rage, and fury and in most instances, it is due to displeasure. Anger never addresses the emotional instigator rather it always conveys a hidden message missing intensity and justification. This means when a person is upset sometimes they do not know what is really causing the problem.

This means we have to look deep inside ourselves to find the source that instigating the explosion. If a person is upset, it is rarely because of a word, action, place, or person. Rather an integrated hatred has been built through many years. The person is often lacking educational experience and has probably suffered at the hands of underdeveloped. Therefore, we need maturity in the picture, which means someone has to re-teach this individual before anger kills.

Anger is nothing to toy with. When a person loses his or her ability to restrain self-control, never underestimate what anger will do.

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The Triggers of Anger

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The Triggers of Anger worry about

The Triggers of Anger

Triggers are what interrupts emotions and causes us to become angry. When we learn our triggers, we are taking a step in the right direction to control our emotions. First, we need to weed through the roots of anger to determine the problem. If you have obsessive anger, outbursts you might want to get a physical to eliminate chemical or physical roots of your anger. Next, you will go to a mental health expert to eliminate mental illnesses that are often the root of anger.

After you have done step one and two and the problem does not lie between mental illness and physical then you will need to attend anger management classes. Obviously, you have no control over your emotions; therefore, you will need to learn techniques that help you to cope better with your fears, frustrations, anxiety, depression and emotions. This will help you to move ahead in life and gain control of your anger. You might want to ask your self what you are afraid of or what are the triggers of your anger?

You might review the thoughts carefully to see if you anger is justifiable. Are you afraid to speak up and protect your rights? Is there something in your past that leads you to worry obsessively and enforce your anger? Maybe you were a victim of some incident in your past or you witnessed something that disturbed your conscious and you rambled through life without dealing with the stressor. Regardless, you are affected somehow and your emotions are not cooperating with your thoughts.

Some of us fret over things that are out of our control. For example, many of worry about growing old or dying, which is not in our hands to worry about?   We all are growing older each day and it is a part of life that is out of our control.

Likewise, we are all at risk of dying. It is how you deal with that makes or breaks your success. Accepting that you are growing old is the first step to eliminating worry that leads to anger. Take the fear and reverse by telling your self that age is a factor of life that we all must face, yet I have some control.

If I exercise, eat right, and take care of my skin then I may not look in the mirror when I am sixty and see an extremely wrinkled face and sagging skin. Likewise, if you know that you are dying and cannot do nothing about it, remember the more you take care of your mind and body the longer you will live. Some of us worry about tomorrow and how we will manage to survive the next day.

If you worry about tomorrow, you are missing what today can bring. No one has control of tomorrow and to worry about something that is out of our hands is wasting time and energy. If you have problems with worry, you might want to remember that today is another day and thank the Lord that you are breathing. Worry is a form of selfishness, since you are anticipating a problem that may or may not occur. Some of us fear that we will go insane if our problems continue to escalate.

This fear is not justifiable because you cannot predict your mind. Your mind may feel at wits ends, but you have control to handle your emotions if you reach inside your self and face your fears. Now we can review triggers by seeing that unjust and justifiable triggers are linked to emotions, which causes anger. We might find that we are responsible for our emotions and failed to take charge of them, allowing them to rule our lives.

We might even find a source in the past that invoked our emotions and promoted an undeveloped mind. When you find your triggers and review your problems, you are taking charge of your anger and your life will prove fruitful for your efforts. Triggers are objects, words, pictures, sound, taste, smell and when a person is triggered to anger, they often react either positively or negatively to the source.

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Issues such as a child eating!

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Issues such as a child eating! angry person

The Signs of Anger

What are the signs of anger? Since everyone is different it can be impossible to define, however since anger is the same we can sum it up. Angry persons will assault others, whether it is verbally or physically. An anger person will slap, hit, punch, threaten, shove, or kick others when their anger arises. They are often aggressive, sarcastic, nagging, and will often complain about everything.

They are malicious toward others, which includes spreading rumors, retaliating, or defiantly striking out against another. Persons with anger problems often display anti-social behaviors, including denial and inability to relate to others. Angry persons often act out in hate and will go out of their way to hurt others in the process. They often have negative thinking patterns and these patterns are displayed to others. When a person is angry, they often tell others that you are stupid.

Alternatively, you are ugly and no one wants you. This is belittling the other person and the angry person often finds relief. When a person has difficulty dealing with his or her anger they will often vent their lack the ability to trust others.

They are often suspicious, whining, judgmental, and often jealous of others. They will act out disruptively, and retort to disobliging reactions. A person with anger issues will often try to under mind anyone around them. These types of people are no fun to be around and they do need help.

Recently I dealt with a woman that had uncontrollable anger issues. For no apparent reason she would react to minor issues. Issues such as a child eating too much or eating something that she envied was enough to instigate a reaction. Sometimes she was mild in her acts, and other times she was outrageous.

In most instances, she had no foundation for her behavior; however, there was an underlying source. The woman did in fact display anti-social behaviors, and often communicated erupting thinking patterns. For example, she would say that all men are pigs. She also talked about leading men on; leading them to her basement and having alligators eat them alive.

The woman was deranged and very sick minded. Now she was diagnosed with Bipolar – Manic Depression, and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. After carefully examining her, I dismissed Posttraumatic Stress or at most minimized the diagnosed since most of her symptoms were that of histrionic, anti-social traits. Now the root of her anger according to her was that the many men she endured relationships with mistreated her. This may have been partial reason, but the truth showed when she talked about her life.

She was adopted; therefore, she had a sense of abandonment. The root her is obvious, since she most likely hated her parents for tossing her away like garbage. Even if the parents were justifiable, or rather had a good cause to adopt, she refuses to hear the other side. Since the woman had ongoing symptoms of this type of behavior, I noticed that treatment would probably never work since she was a victim of her own state of mind and in complete denial. I noticed that the woman had anger deep within due to her own behaviors.

She acted out criminally, writing bad checks and justifying it. Therefore, the symptoms she endured were partially her own making. She created her anger and paranoia, therefore her anger is on her and no one else. However, angry people will under mind others.

For example, the angry person might say something to the affect: try these diet pills they will help you loose weight. Now the person knows that the target has an area of self-esteem since she is normal weight, but thinks she is fat. Therefore, the angered person is trying to belittle the individual by under minding her.

An angry person will also seek attention and often use negative words. For example, I am fat. Now the person is waiting for you to tell her that she is exaggerating.

The best thing to do in this instances is do not sit yourself up for a fall. No matter how many times you tell the person that she is not fat, or she just needs to drop a few pounds you are never going to satisfy her mind, since denial is the root.

 

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